A wonderful thing has happened. Thanks to my dear friend Megan (Megan, if you're reading this, MUAH!! Thanks again! Love ya!) I am now a paid writer. Yep, I am finally getting a chance to do what I've always dreamed of and I am a contributing writer to the lifestyle section of a website. I'm not going to name names here because I want to keep this and my lack of filter separate from certain things. But I have to tell you.
I am absolutely scared shitless.
I know I can write. It is one thing I'm certain of. But there is something really scary about getting what you've always wanted. What if you're not as good as you think you are? What if you're not cut out to do what you've believed has been your calling since you were old enough to put your thoughts down on paper? What if *GASP* I'm not as funny as I think I am?? That would fuck with my whole existence!
The good thing is for this particular job I'm writing news pieces so my weirdo sense of humor doesn't come into play. But that's also the bad thing. I'm outside of my comfort zone and for a girl who still has her beloved security blanket that is as old as she is, this can be terrifying.
I hope that once I find my groove I'll relax a little and release the "oh shit" handle that I've been white knuckling since I was hired. Until then you can find me in the corner hiding under my blankie.
Monday, January 27, 2014
Monday, January 20, 2014
Say Something, I Dare You
There have been very few times in my life when I felt the urge to go off on someone. I'm fairly calm and can keep my cool. Depending on who you ask this may not be true, but I know I keep my temper in check a lot better than my husband. However I almost went full crazy bitch off-her-meds redneck on a stranger yesterday.
We decided to take the kids downtown to see the Titanic exhibit. Surprisingly they both were really excited about this (even after I explained it was artifacts from the actual ship, not the movie) so off we went. It was much more crowded than I expected it to be and there was a slow moving line to make your way through to see everything. Joshua doesn't always do well in crowds so I kept a close eye on him. There was an older man in line in front of us, not elderly, but what I call "old enough to know better". The first indication that Joshua might have trouble there was when you enter they give you a card with the name of an actual passenger. When you get to the end of the exhibit you can check a list to see if your card was one of the survivors. Joshua began to panic a little.
"Mom, what if I die?"
"It's not really you, it's just the name of someone who was really on the ship."
Death is a subject that is very touchy for Joshua so I was scared where this could go. He let that go and started with this one.
"Mom, I feel like we're sinking"
"Joshua, we're on dry land and not even on a boat."
We had a few more of these exchanges and the man in front of us would turn and give me an odd look when Joshua would start voicing his worries. I could feel my blood start to boil with the anticipation that he would be dumb enough to say something to us. When Joshua began to complain about how hot it was, the man turned to Ryan and said
"Is he the baby?"
I looked at this guy and thought to myself " Yes, asshole. He IS the baby. He's my baby. He might not be the youngest in the family but I swear to God if you say anything negative or demeaning about what you might consider to be odd behavior I will come at you with the anger of a thousand killer bees whose nest you just disturbed." He didn't deserve an explanation of why my baby does the things he does and I wasn't in the mood to give a speech about autism acceptance. All I wanted to do was punch this man in the throat.
Ryan noticed the look on my face and instantly read my mind. He stepped in between me and the jackass and said "No, actually he's our oldest" and pointed me in a different direction. I'm pretty sure he read my mind too because not once did he look our way again as we made our way through the exhibit.
I'm not an intimidating or mean person, but say something about my kids. I dare you.
We decided to take the kids downtown to see the Titanic exhibit. Surprisingly they both were really excited about this (even after I explained it was artifacts from the actual ship, not the movie) so off we went. It was much more crowded than I expected it to be and there was a slow moving line to make your way through to see everything. Joshua doesn't always do well in crowds so I kept a close eye on him. There was an older man in line in front of us, not elderly, but what I call "old enough to know better". The first indication that Joshua might have trouble there was when you enter they give you a card with the name of an actual passenger. When you get to the end of the exhibit you can check a list to see if your card was one of the survivors. Joshua began to panic a little.
"Mom, what if I die?"
"It's not really you, it's just the name of someone who was really on the ship."
Death is a subject that is very touchy for Joshua so I was scared where this could go. He let that go and started with this one.
"Mom, I feel like we're sinking"
"Joshua, we're on dry land and not even on a boat."
We had a few more of these exchanges and the man in front of us would turn and give me an odd look when Joshua would start voicing his worries. I could feel my blood start to boil with the anticipation that he would be dumb enough to say something to us. When Joshua began to complain about how hot it was, the man turned to Ryan and said
"Is he the baby?"
I looked at this guy and thought to myself " Yes, asshole. He IS the baby. He's my baby. He might not be the youngest in the family but I swear to God if you say anything negative or demeaning about what you might consider to be odd behavior I will come at you with the anger of a thousand killer bees whose nest you just disturbed." He didn't deserve an explanation of why my baby does the things he does and I wasn't in the mood to give a speech about autism acceptance. All I wanted to do was punch this man in the throat.
Ryan noticed the look on my face and instantly read my mind. He stepped in between me and the jackass and said "No, actually he's our oldest" and pointed me in a different direction. I'm pretty sure he read my mind too because not once did he look our way again as we made our way through the exhibit.
I'm not an intimidating or mean person, but say something about my kids. I dare you.
Monday, January 13, 2014
Time Has Bitchslapped Me Across The Face
Normally I don't feel anywhere close to my age. I have the sense of humor of a 13 year old boy, the more inappropriate something is the funnier I find it. I don't look my age either. A co worker told me the other day when she first met me a year ago she thought I couldn't be more than 24 or 25. That's a decent compliment considering my youngest sister is 22. But just like always I start thinking and all that happens is I mind fuck myself. This past weekend I started over thinking and I felt as old as the crypt keeper.
In March I will be 36 years old. I met Ryan when I was 18 so this means we have been together exactly half my life. In 2 years I will have been out of high school for 20 years. 20 freaking years?!?!?! No, I flat refuse to believe it and to prove it to myself I am going to do a round off back handspring like I used to do when I was a cheerleader. Please be ready to call 911 because I have much more ass now than I did back then and it won't be as easy to make it flip over my head. The sad thing is if I even tried to do a cartwheel I would be sore for days. And it would probably make me pee a little. That's another story. Then the doozy hit me.
When my mom was the age I am now, I was 20 years old. Holy fucking shit I could have a 20 year old!!! It's as if I never realized just how young my mom is until I broke it down like that. And it made me feel ancient. Let's add to it that I took a 2 hour nap on Sunday and was ready to go to bed for the night at 6:30 and you might as well make me a reservation at the old folks home and pack me some Depends.
As time continues to bitch slap me I will continue to slather on the Oil of Olay along with my acne cream. ( Those two things shouldn't be in the same sentence.) My mind might try to tell me I'm old, but I'm damn sure not going to look it!
In March I will be 36 years old. I met Ryan when I was 18 so this means we have been together exactly half my life. In 2 years I will have been out of high school for 20 years. 20 freaking years?!?!?! No, I flat refuse to believe it and to prove it to myself I am going to do a round off back handspring like I used to do when I was a cheerleader. Please be ready to call 911 because I have much more ass now than I did back then and it won't be as easy to make it flip over my head. The sad thing is if I even tried to do a cartwheel I would be sore for days. And it would probably make me pee a little. That's another story. Then the doozy hit me.
When my mom was the age I am now, I was 20 years old. Holy fucking shit I could have a 20 year old!!! It's as if I never realized just how young my mom is until I broke it down like that. And it made me feel ancient. Let's add to it that I took a 2 hour nap on Sunday and was ready to go to bed for the night at 6:30 and you might as well make me a reservation at the old folks home and pack me some Depends.
As time continues to bitch slap me I will continue to slather on the Oil of Olay along with my acne cream. ( Those two things shouldn't be in the same sentence.) My mind might try to tell me I'm old, but I'm damn sure not going to look it!
Monday, January 6, 2014
Random Acts of Kindness
A small miracle happened a few days ago. I actually left the house earlier enough that I was able to stop for coffee on my way to work. Normally I make it at home or hope that someone in the office has made a pot and will take pity on me. But this morning I was early and I had Starbucks gift cards that my dad gave me for Christmas, so I was on my merry way to get my tall peppermint mocha. (So.damn.good!!)
I had heard about people in the drive thru paying for the cars behind them as a random act of kindness and I thought "you know what? I have $50 in Starbucks cards. It will take me forever to spend it since I never leave the house on time, why not share?" I pull up to the window to get my cup of heaven and the cashier tells me the car in front of me paid for my drink! Said she told them to tell me to have a good day. I was so flustered I didn't know what to say. I damn near forgot that was my plan in the first place. I finally was able to tell her that I wanted to pay for the people behind me and to tell them to stay warm.
That experience put a smile on my face for the whole day. I didn't plan on paying for a stranger's coffee with the expectation it would come back to me someday, so for it to beat me to the punch got me thinking. If something as small as a cup of coffee can make someone's day, why don't we do more things for people? It doesn't have to be huge deal. Do what you can afford and a lot of things can be done for free. The world is full of inconsiderate asshats and a lot of times I feel like I'm losing faith in humanity. Imagine how much better the world would be if we stopped thinking about ourselves and did just a little something extra to make someone smile. They could be having the worst day ever and you could be the person to turn it around. Little things can be life changing. Sometimes they can be life saving.
Do you want to be remembered as making people smile, or do you want to be remembered as being the asshat?
I had heard about people in the drive thru paying for the cars behind them as a random act of kindness and I thought "you know what? I have $50 in Starbucks cards. It will take me forever to spend it since I never leave the house on time, why not share?" I pull up to the window to get my cup of heaven and the cashier tells me the car in front of me paid for my drink! Said she told them to tell me to have a good day. I was so flustered I didn't know what to say. I damn near forgot that was my plan in the first place. I finally was able to tell her that I wanted to pay for the people behind me and to tell them to stay warm.
That experience put a smile on my face for the whole day. I didn't plan on paying for a stranger's coffee with the expectation it would come back to me someday, so for it to beat me to the punch got me thinking. If something as small as a cup of coffee can make someone's day, why don't we do more things for people? It doesn't have to be huge deal. Do what you can afford and a lot of things can be done for free. The world is full of inconsiderate asshats and a lot of times I feel like I'm losing faith in humanity. Imagine how much better the world would be if we stopped thinking about ourselves and did just a little something extra to make someone smile. They could be having the worst day ever and you could be the person to turn it around. Little things can be life changing. Sometimes they can be life saving.
Do you want to be remembered as making people smile, or do you want to be remembered as being the asshat?
Friday, January 3, 2014
Two Is My Limit
A few months ago I wrote about how when little girls play together it is imperative to keep an even number in the group. I need to make an amendment to that. That goes for all kids, and for me the even number is two. My nephew has been hanging out with us a lot over Christmas break and while I love and adore him I quickly learned a valuable lesson.
God knew I couldn't handle more than two kids.
I swear the three of them don't agree on anything as a group. Put two of them together and it's all peachy. They're so happy they're shitting skittles. But then the third tries to join and all hell breaks loose. I don't get it. It's like a supernatural phenomenon and they all get possessed by the devil. Heads spin, eyes glow red with fire and the screaming can only be compared to a banshee. And that's just me trying to deal with the fighting!!
So to all my dear, lovely friends who have more than two children, I salute you. You're total rock stars. If I can't handle having 3 kids with me from time to time I seriously doubt I would be able to hold my shit together if I had 3 all the time. If you have any advice I am so ready to hear it. But it will have to be later because I hear an epic battle starting to go down over Nerf guns. Wish me luck.
God knew I couldn't handle more than two kids.
I swear the three of them don't agree on anything as a group. Put two of them together and it's all peachy. They're so happy they're shitting skittles. But then the third tries to join and all hell breaks loose. I don't get it. It's like a supernatural phenomenon and they all get possessed by the devil. Heads spin, eyes glow red with fire and the screaming can only be compared to a banshee. And that's just me trying to deal with the fighting!!
So to all my dear, lovely friends who have more than two children, I salute you. You're total rock stars. If I can't handle having 3 kids with me from time to time I seriously doubt I would be able to hold my shit together if I had 3 all the time. If you have any advice I am so ready to hear it. But it will have to be later because I hear an epic battle starting to go down over Nerf guns. Wish me luck.
Thursday, January 2, 2014
Hair It Is. And That Will Be My Only Pun
It's a well known fact that I love to change my hair. It has been all the colors of the rainbow, some intentional, some not. It has been long, short, curly, straight and everything in between. I am never satisfied and am always searching for the perfect 'do. And I thought this time I had found it. What have I mentioned before about thinking? Yeah, I shouldn't do it so much. Too little, too late for that!
I became obsessed with getting a pixie cut. I just had to have it and would not stop until I had it. You know what I'm talking about, right? The adorable, super short hair style that looks great on people like Jennifer Lawrence and Charlize Theron? For some odd reason I got it in my head that I would look AMAZING with this cut.
*INSERT GINORMOUS FACEPALM HERE*
The cut itself is great. My mom does my hair and she does awesome work. The problem is when you have a round face like me you tend to look like Charlie Brown when you have super short hair. When I'm lounging around in a hoodie and sweats and make up free, I look like an elf. A boy elf at that. When I do put on make up I've had to learn to tone it down or else I look like a middle aged woman who smokes the really long, skinny cigarettes and does all her shopping on QVC. My 6 year old nephew told me I look like Miley Cyrus and believe me when I say you do NOT want to see me try to twerk. And I can't do a damn thing about it except wait for it to grow out.
I'm sure I'll get used to it. I'll probably end up loving it once it gets just a little bit longer. But this is the most drastic thing I've ever done to my head and I'm in a tad bit of shock. In the meantime I'm not going to search Google or Pinterest for hairstyles and I'll smack my own hand the next time I get the urge to have scissors brought to my noggin.
I became obsessed with getting a pixie cut. I just had to have it and would not stop until I had it. You know what I'm talking about, right? The adorable, super short hair style that looks great on people like Jennifer Lawrence and Charlize Theron? For some odd reason I got it in my head that I would look AMAZING with this cut.
*INSERT GINORMOUS FACEPALM HERE*
The cut itself is great. My mom does my hair and she does awesome work. The problem is when you have a round face like me you tend to look like Charlie Brown when you have super short hair. When I'm lounging around in a hoodie and sweats and make up free, I look like an elf. A boy elf at that. When I do put on make up I've had to learn to tone it down or else I look like a middle aged woman who smokes the really long, skinny cigarettes and does all her shopping on QVC. My 6 year old nephew told me I look like Miley Cyrus and believe me when I say you do NOT want to see me try to twerk. And I can't do a damn thing about it except wait for it to grow out.
I'm sure I'll get used to it. I'll probably end up loving it once it gets just a little bit longer. But this is the most drastic thing I've ever done to my head and I'm in a tad bit of shock. In the meantime I'm not going to search Google or Pinterest for hairstyles and I'll smack my own hand the next time I get the urge to have scissors brought to my noggin.
Wednesday, January 1, 2014
And So It Begins
I did it. After a little more than a year and endless pages of notes written on post its, scrap paper and napkins, I submitted my first book proposal. Not a bad way to start off the new year.
I'm a total sap who believes in fate and signs from the universe so yesterday when Facebook suggested I "like" a page of a publisher who has an interest in books about Autism, I took it as a sign to get my ass in gear. No more talking about it, it was time to just do it. I know the reality. I know chances are extremely high my first attempt will be met with a rejection letter. I tell myself I'll be able to handle it, but we all know the truth.
I can be a little sensitive.
I'm much better now than I used to be. In the past if someone told me they didn't like my writing, my shoes, my hair, whatever, I took it way too personally. Now I'm much more inclined to say "screw you and the horse you rode in on" but this book is different. It truly has my heart in it. I've felt for a long time that sharing parts of Joshua's story would be helpful to other kids and parents trying to deal with the Autism spectrum and I really hope others feel the same way. If you'll allow me to get a bit sappy for a moment, I believe it is my calling. We're on this journey to help others and let them know that while Autism is hard and can be very alienating, they're not alone.
Because of this I'm going to have to put on my big girl panties and be prepared to get my little feelings hurt. I might get a hundred no's, but all I need is one yes.
I'm a total sap who believes in fate and signs from the universe so yesterday when Facebook suggested I "like" a page of a publisher who has an interest in books about Autism, I took it as a sign to get my ass in gear. No more talking about it, it was time to just do it. I know the reality. I know chances are extremely high my first attempt will be met with a rejection letter. I tell myself I'll be able to handle it, but we all know the truth.
I can be a little sensitive.
I'm much better now than I used to be. In the past if someone told me they didn't like my writing, my shoes, my hair, whatever, I took it way too personally. Now I'm much more inclined to say "screw you and the horse you rode in on" but this book is different. It truly has my heart in it. I've felt for a long time that sharing parts of Joshua's story would be helpful to other kids and parents trying to deal with the Autism spectrum and I really hope others feel the same way. If you'll allow me to get a bit sappy for a moment, I believe it is my calling. We're on this journey to help others and let them know that while Autism is hard and can be very alienating, they're not alone.
Because of this I'm going to have to put on my big girl panties and be prepared to get my little feelings hurt. I might get a hundred no's, but all I need is one yes.
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